Information for autistic parents

There are many things that are said about autism which may make people think that autistic people cannot be parents. Things such as:

Autistic people cannot feel love
Autistic people have no empathy
Autism means you can't communicate well
Being a parent will make the autism worse

All of these are NOT TRUE!

Parenting comes in all different styles. Autistic parents can provide everything a child needs to grow in a healthy, happy, loving environment, no different to parents without autism.

Quite often it is when a child receives a diagnosis of ASD a parent then realises that they have a lot of the same differences. They may then talk to their GP about their own assessment. This can be quite a difficult time. The person will think about who they are, things that have happened to them in the past, and they may have a lot of different feelings inside. It can also be a really good experience as a person begins to understand why some things have been difficult for them.

This shared understanding of autism can be really good for both the parent and the child.

Shared understanding of Autism: tips for parents

Keeping a family routine can be helpful for everyone. Set times for baths, shopping, and the school run. This will avoid uncertainty and help to keep everyone organised.
Use white boards, diaries, and calendars to keep track of what everyone is doing
Make sure you allow time for yourself to get back some energy.
If you look after yourself, you are then more able to look after your children.
Taking time out is not bad parenting.
Remember, there is no one way to be a good parent. We are always learning, and we do make mistakes. Be honest and open with your children and be prepared to say “sorry” when you get it wrong.